Ruptured Brain Aneurysms: Be Careful In The Dating World

I wish I could sleep but there’s almost nothing worse than looking at a friend with exhausted dark circles under her eyes and the eyes…empty. Watching her close off from the rest of the people she knows ,especially, if they bring him up. What’s she supposed to do?

Tell her friends they were wrong? Yeah, they warned her he was a cheater. But they didn’t know it wasn’t other women she needed to worry about.

Maybe she should tell them how he’s brought her down. Way down. Tell them what she dealt with was so much more painful than a sleazy guy with other women.

She learned fast how to handle being put down, being called stupid, eye rolls filled with disgust, being told to shut up, watching his face turn deep red when she said the “wrong” thing, being ignored, disrespected on and on. And how could he do all this in less than 90 days?

I’m only talking about her because I want desperately to slap her in the face. Wake up! Remember who you are! You’re not small. You’re not a failure. I want her to remember who she is. She’s strong and confident. She’s loved and used to be so happy. In less than three short months she’s in a very dark place.

You’re not worthless. Why would someone be able to or even want to make someone feel this way?

This is a woman that served in the Army until 2003. I think it’s sad because when she trusted him she would almost talk about it to him. He made her feel safe. She doesn’t feel safe anymore.

She’s been so successful with business. Tried lots of different things. Some things failed but the ones that didn’t…Wow!

She co-owned restaurants in Monterey and Carmel…very successful ones. And unbelievable how well she did with that crazy mortgage boom. Talk about making money. Then took on insurance. Became one of the top agents in the area. Wouldn’t you think she’d act like a snobby bitch? Well, she wouldn’t because she’s not.

She’s very giving and tries really hard to be kind and tries not to judge. That doesn’t always work. She feels like sh#* sometimes and can be a bitch but will usually apologize when things get better. She doesn’t trust people that only talk about their good traits. People are liars unless they tell you that they make lots of mistakes even when they know it’s a mistake before they do it.

Ah, life.

Reality is, she probably told him a lot. He probably just didn’t care. I mean, really, they were friends for over a year. Dated a few times but really were just friends. She thought the world of him even though, well, most people don’t. She introduced him to her son. He was great! Her son adores him. He met just about everyone in her family. He was so liked by people that generally don’t like anyone she dates. Oh, he was so charming and she felt…content…she never feels that way.

What should she do? Forgive him? Just give him another chance? I mean, really, it’s been such a short time since they actually spent this much time together. If a man does these kinds of things to a woman should he get another chance? Or should she let others know this isn’t a good guy and leave. It sucks because she wants to try again but why?

Ugh, I wish I could sleep. But I can’t stop looking in the mirror at the exhausted dark circles under my empty eyes. I can’t talk about the way I feel so I write.